Tuesday, 24 February 2015

Take the plunge

I am a cautious person.

I think, a lot. I rethink and analyse and over think and contemplate and re-evaluate pretty much every decision I ever make. I look at things from all sides, I compare pro's and con's, draw up lists, ask for advice. It's how I've always been.

Don't get me wrong, I am adventurous. I climb mountains and jump off bridges and sail down rivers, I get out there and enjoy life, but when it comes to the important things, I think, a lot.

Unfortunately, this means that most of my dreams, most of my ideas, never get past the planning phase. I sometimes tend to get so caught up in the thinking, that I fail to get to the doing.

This year, I am trying to cut back on my excessive over thinking. I am trying to learn that, no matter how hard I try, I can't control every aspect of every decision I make. I can't ensure that everything turns out exactly according to my plan, but I can ensure that I am flexible enough to roll with the punches as they come. I am working hard on trusting my own decisions, not second guessing myself, and no more dwelling on the worst possible outcome in every situation.

That doesn't mean I am going to go blindly rushing into any thing that comes my way, I will still be cautious in game-changing situations, but on the small things I will take more chances. I would rather live a life of 'oh wells', than a life of 'what ifs'.
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So come on, take the plunge with me. Think of one area in your life where you can afford to let loose the reigns a little bit, one are where you can just let things happen. Share your decision with me in the comments if you like, and keep me posted on the outcome!

And remember, 
Happiness is a choice. 

Monday, 16 February 2015

Perfectly Imperfect

Have you ever been completely happy with your life, and then on closer examination noticed the little cracks that run through it? Little imperfections that mar the surface? At first, these examinations made me angry, desperate to 'fix' the problems. But recently I have come to realise that it is these moments, that add colour to the fabric of our lives.

It is forgetting to stock up on milk and having Green tea in the morning instead of coffee. It is footprints on an otherwise spotless beach. It is plans that go awry. It is thunderstorms in February that pull leaves off the trees. It is a pimple on the day of a date, and blemishes on perfect white roses.

Life is not perfect. There is no fixed set of rules. The pressure we put on ourselves to fit into this image we have created of 'perfect' is enough to break us. These little imperfections are part and parcel of our every day lives, and the sooner we learn to accept them as such, the happier we will be.

Embrace your imperfections, celebrate the blemishes in your life, and realise that the only person you need to impress, is yourself.
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And remember,
Happiness is a choice

Monday, 2 February 2015

February - the month of love(-ing yourself)

Wow... Is it just me of is time flying? 1 month of 2015 down and only 11 left to go. Are you still sticking to your New Year's goals?

For most people, February is the month of love. Roses, and chocolates and big Valentine's day plans, it is so easy to get caught up in the hype of the holiday. As a hopeless romantic myself, I love celebrating Valentine's day. I don't buy big, flashy gifts, but I love acknowledging the people in my life with small tokens of love and appreciation throughout the month.

This year, however, the month of February is going to take a different direction for me. This is the month that I am going to love myself, acknowledge my eccentricities, embrace my flaws, celebrate my strengths. I am going to invest in myself, spend time on myself, and what feeds my soul.

I have come to realise lately, that the most important person in my life, should be me. That I need to take care of myself, in order to properly care for my children. For me, this is a new concept. I have always been so caught up in being the best for other people, that I forgot to be the best for me. It took a lot of heartache for me to acknowledge that I need to stand up for myself, be in my own corner, and stop sacrificing myself.

And that is my wish for all of you, that you steal some time during this month of love, to focus on yourself. Read a book, bake cupcakes, go for coffee, carve out some time in your busy life, to love yourself. You are worth it.
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Be happy, my loves, because happiness is a choice!